Soft Skill A Skill or Way of Being

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It is such a shame that in today's so called highly civilised and growing culture there is an increasing need for soft skill trainers. What dose term Soft skill training mean are we saying that we need to be trained to have a humanistic approach, we need to develop EQ that is emotional quotient aren't all these things our inherent traits as humans.

Yes they are but the problem is that in the craving to learn the technical skill that we are busy scoring high scores in these and forgetting our basic inherent skills. Soft skill is mainly about developing EQ our emotional quotient but in the rat race who has the time for Emotions do we????

Lets Think if a colleague or a subordinate is not preforming well what is our reaction ??

He/She is LAZY / DUMB/ NOT SKILLED ENOUGH / NOT PROACTIVE.

Do we ever think and question WHY ? 

Why are they the way they are ?.

May be we ask but do we really spend the time with them and try and change them . Because we have not handled our emotions and we have always suppressed them in the process to reach first in the rat race. 

So how can we be sensitive towards others emotions when we have not been sensitive towards our own. 

So my question is do we need training in soft skill or we just need to slow down and reflect. Do we just need to be what we are born to be Humans And Behave In Spontaneous And Responsible Emotional Beings.

Arent we all special???

I have come across many people craving to feel special, loads of time I myself go through this feeling that; why people around me don't make me feel special .....creating a void in life.
Is this craving external or internal is the question I ask to self and to all ....
More we look for it outside the more detached we feel from self. Then we are in a loop of self pity, lack of confidence, depression and the snake of expectations starts whirling around us and we are left breathless struggling to set our self free from this poisonous snake seeking help crying and calling for a rescuer.
 But alas it just doesn't happen , just the hands that are helping us keep changing and with each hand that's not able to help us we feel more dejected and then jump into the deep ocean of blame.
 What helps us come out of this is just accepting the simple truth THAT WE ARE BORN SPECIAL and do not need anything and anyone to make us us feel what we already are,  

So lets just look into our self and say

 " I am Special"

  And experience how the poisonous snake just miraculously relieves us from its clutches and we are able to swims in FREEDOM"

FINDING THE GUIDING FORCE

FINDING THE GUIDING FORCE

Living your life according to your thought or letting universe guide you towards leading your life ,people say its your choice, but i would say it is holding on to the experience as I believe that every human being is part of the universe and universe has given at least a glimpse of that divine light but its our responsibility.

Again when I say responsibility what comes to your mind ....but what touched my soul is as

Osho explained it “Responsibility is ability to respond” .

But the question is that are we as humans are we responding or reacting to every small aspect of life ?

Yes this is our choice we can train ourselves to respond than to react and feel the bliss which while reacting we do not notice.My experience says that learning to respond is a process in which we need to unlearn the habit of reacting to learn responding. 

If we pay attention to human behavior ,good or bad ,it is a reaction to past if we have been loved as a child we learn to love if we have experienced anger hurt or any other negative in excess we react according to that .

The moment we come to awareness that we are reacting and we let go of the past experiences and respond to people based on today here and now.These are the times when we experience our true self because it is free from the burden of past and is opaque and we can see through the illuminating light within us the light of the supreme energy.

Here is when we experience the feeling of being one with the universe, if we as humans can hang on to this feeling life long we will not feel the disconnect which is the route cause of any problem in the world. The beauty of this energy is that it is omnipresent and is accessible to all and dose not cost you anything other than your awareness and being in here and now.So what are we waiting for is the universe asking to much by wanting us to be aware and being in the moment.

So dear friends lets make an effort to learn to respond effortlessly. 

By just being in here and now and trusting that there is some one who knows it all is always guiding us.